Time for another hippy dippy post on astrology. Shoot, have I lost you already? Have a sense of humor, my friends– this is fun.
Last week I mentioned that I went on a couple dates with another new guy. I tell you what, I spend a year convincing myself that I am un-dateable and that there aren’t any men out there; and then, suddenly, they’re flocking out of the woodwork.
Anyway, new guy has me in a predicament that I’ve not lived in my adult life. As you can likely ascertain, I’m typically the reacher in a new relationship. Yeah, that sounds, initially, embarrassing; but, I know what I want and express how I’m feeling. I don’t think I should compromise on that (I’m a Scorpio, remember? Intensity is my middle name). So, I meet this guy early last week and it becomes abundantly clear that I am the more outgoing of the pair. If you don’t know me personally, this probably makes sense to you as I just finished emphasizing my intensity. However, the kicker about Scorpios is that we are typically a raging contradiction. What I mean to say is that I am undoubtedly an introverted person who has been described as shy throughout my life. Being the more outgoing of a couple on a date is not something I’m used to. Red flags start going up. Give me a martini and forgo the dinner, all of my 1.2 trillion thoughts are coming out.
First thought to arrive is: this dude must not be a sign that I’m used to hanging out with (yes, this really is how my brain works). What do I do? I ask him when his birthday is. I determine that he’s an Aquarius, and ask if he knows anything about it. Typically, the answer to that question is, “no.” This time was no exception.
If you happen to know anything about astrology, you might know that Scorpios and Aquarians are notoriously known for their incompatibility. This has never made sense to me because from everything I know about Aquarians, they stand for liberation, freedom of thought, peace and love– all that cool stuff I try to be more about. I only have three Aquarians in my life on a, somewhat, regular basis. They are my sweet nanny baby, my friend Renate (happy birthday, girl), and my Lindsey friend’s sister Whitney. Whitney just started a blog that’s a lot cooler than mine, and you can find it here. I’ve always thought these three people were pretty great. I don’t spend much time with the adult two; so, my Aquarius knowledge is limited to my experience with a tiny human. So, admittedly– it’s limited.
Lesson time: every sun sign (this is the most basic one that you are most probably aware of) has a quadruplicity. This means that your sign is associated with an element that is one of earth, fire, air, or water. If you’re an earth sign, you’re probably a pretty grounded and rational person– very logical. My dad is the most fitting example of an earth sign. He is the most logical and thought-based person I know. Additionally, the very first dude I went on a date with in the Year of Morgan was an earth sign. If you recall, he wasn’t into me because my emotions and intensity intimidated him. That being said, I am a water sign. We are literally known for our emotions.
Fire signs are who I have the most experience dating. Both of my boyfriends, as well as the last guy I wrote about— all fire signs. Fire and water aren’t known for being super compatible. We’re both intense, but not in the same ways. While fire signs’ intensity stems from their emotions, they’re not awesome at articulating that. The exception to this being Sagittarians who are chronically looking on the bright side and can rationalize the benefit of expressing their feelings. My kryptonite is Leo. They’re incredibly confident and usually big fans of themselves. I’m not sure why I’m so drawn to that, perhaps that’s a post for the future.
Last of the quadruplicicities are the air signs. Air signs are usually pretty smart, value reason over emotion, and are notoriously difficult to read. Aquarians are air signs, and I’d describe myself as someone who finds a lot of worth in my ability to read people. Moreover, my decisions are almost always emotionally weighed (apologies to my grounded, earth sign father). The problem with this Aquarius dude is that I cannot read him– at all. There are very few words, I can’t read his expressions, and I’m sensing very little emotions. I can tell you that without these traits, the relationship will not work. What’s been more bizarre for me is that after expressing my concern over these things, reiterating my intensity and emotional character, he remained persistent in wanting to date me. Remember that I’m usually the reacher? Being persistent is my job. I’m out of my element, (HA! Great unintentional pun) and it’s making me think. A lot. While I’m 95 percent certain this relationship is doomed, I’m grateful for a new experience. I like to know things and learning this is no exception.
As this second installment of our star-talk comes to a close, I’ll leave you with a teaser. Over the weekend, I met another new guy (people, I was not exaggerating. They’re coming at me from every direction). Because I’m me, I’ve already surmised what his sign is. This has me optimistically curious as he is a Cancer. Cancer is a water sign. Water signs like other water signs. In the history of dating Morgan, I’ve only ever “dated” one water sign. It was memorable. If anything comes from this new guy, it should be interesting.
That’s all I’ve got. Happy Monday!